We Need A Romantic Sex

Music of Essex

2007-09-30T09:40:00.000+07:00

The story of the Essex was as well known in its time as that of the Titanic today.
Essex was a whaling ship that left the coast of Nantucket, Massachusetts in 1819 on a two-and-a-half-year voyage to the South Pacific to hunt sperm whales.

The ship, however met a tragic end when it capsized after being attacked and hit by a sperm whale. Though the crew members survived the attack, they fell prey to dehydration, starvation and strife, and most of them died, with just eight of the twenty-one men aboard surviving to tell the story of the cataclysm in all its gory entirety. Inspired by Nathaniel Philbrick's novel,

In the Heart of the Sea, Jonathan Geer set out to craft the visceral story in musical terms. Geer's music displays an "admirable and unabashed versatility which has more than a touch of Mike Oldfield about it" says Leonard's Lair. As he read Philbrick's novel, Geer was immediately captivated by the story and the culture of the Nantucket whaling industry. "Their way of life was so harsh and fascinating," says Geer.
"It's hard to imagine living like that--hunting down whales in the Pacific for years at a time away from your home and family. I wanted to capture a sense not only of the wonder I experienced reading the story, but also of the isolation these men felt out on the open sea." If you had to pin down the style of "Essex" you might call it a "fusion of instrumental Bjork and Chopin" as Matt Howarth from Sonic Curiosity does.

Geer's music blends together many styles and crosses over myriad boundaries of genre to deliver a debut that is filled with a "valiant humanity" (Matt Howarth). Jonathan hails from the epic state of Texas. He spent his formative years in Waxahachie, the cultural and social hub of the state. In 2001, Jonathan graduated with a degree in Film Scoring from Berklee College of Music in Boston, MA.
When he isn't composing he keeps himself busy teaching private piano lessons and leading the music at Church of the Good Shepherd in Arlington.

In addition to working with up and coming Dallas area filmmakers, Geer also composed the music for an internet promo trailer of I Heart Huckabees featuring Naomi Watts. You may not have heard of Geer or the Essex, but if you let that stop you from picking up this fantastic debut you'd be missing out on a unique and creative gem. Hear what Foxy Digitalis calls "an upper crusty breath of fresh air in this noisy, fast-paced, make-a-buck music business." Visit www.essexalbum.com for more details.

Sexual Magnetic Secret's

2007-09-11T02:07:00.000+07:00

All this time you thought it was sculpted muscles, dazzling smiles and fast cars that were surefire babe magnets. Well have we got news for you. What really drives women wild are naturally occurring body chemicals called pheromones. Actually they work the same way to drive men wild, but the male and female pheromones are chemically different.

The name pheromone comes from two Greek words pheran (to transfer) and horman (to excite). According to Dr. Winnifred Cutler, pheromones are substances excreted by an animal that affect the reproductive behavior of another same-species animal acting at a distance.

Since 1870 when the French naturalist Jean-Henri Fabre discovered male moths flying from miles away to visit a female moth caged in his lab, scientists have known about and documented the effects of pheromones on mating in insect and animal species. For example male cockroaches go wild when exposed to a glass rod covered with female cockroach pheromones, and attempt to mate with it! A randy boar opens his mouth and puffs out a breath laden with pheromones that freeze a sow in heat, ready for mounting. It wasn t until 1986, however that Dr. Cutler, director of Pennsylvania s Athena Intstitute, proved the existence of human pheromones and began to document their effects.

In humans, pheromones are activated at puberty.
Both men and women produce varying amounts of male pheromones: androstenone and androstenol, only women secrete the female pheromone copulins.
Produced by the apocrine glands in the armpit and around the genitals pheromones send signals that are picked up by the vemeronasal organ (VNO), just inside the nose. The VNO passes these messages on to the limbic part of the brain which governs the most basic human sensations, like joy, anger, love, hate and sexual arousal.

While we aren t consciously aware of another person s pheromones, we can t smell them in the traditional sense, they do have a major impact on us. They ignite the sex drive, increase fertility and help regulate women s menstrual cycles.

For her early studies Dr. Cutler gathered sweat from the armpits of healthy women and men in their 20s, removed the bacteria and odor and used the extract. Because it s much too costly to collect and process human pheromones for sale, she and her team have produced laboratory equivalents. Since then controlled studies by Dr. Cutler and other organizations around the world have shown some amazing results.

In a double blind experiment with young women 36 percent of those exposed to pheromones had sex weekly during the first three weeks of the study. Of those receiving a placebo only 11 percent had weekly sex. By the end of the study, 14 weeks, 73 percent of the pheromone users were having sex every week, while those on the placebo stayed at 11 percent. In another of Dr. Cutler s control groups 38 men were given either a pheromone-alcohol solution to add to their regular cologne or a straight alcohol solution.

None knew which they had been given. After 8 weeks of wearing the cologne 47% of the pheromone users reported that they had more sexual intercourse, compared with only 9.5% of those with the placebo. There have been a few unusual tests illustrating the effects of the male pheromone androstenone on women.

For one study, a single chair in a dentist's reception area was sprayed with androstenone, all the others were left untouched. It was observed that women most often sat in the chair treated with the pheromone. Another test involved three attached pay telephone booths. Again one of the three phones was sprayed with androstenone and more women used the treated phone than the other two.

The Australian organization, Bennett Research, conducted a survey of 306 men using pheromones. Ninety percent of them claimed that the product had increased their attractiveness to women. Increased response from women was measured by:

Making conversation 61%

Starting up a conversation 52%

Expressing an interest in the man 43%

Being responsive to him 40%

Paying unsolicited compliments 36%

Overt flirting 34%

A significant measure was a big increase in physical response by women brushing against the pheromone wearers (31%), touching them (30%), becoming sexually excited (18%), expressing a desire for sex (17%), and actually having sex with them (16%).

One survey participant described his experience: One night in a bar a woman walked past me and looked at me.
The second time she walked past she came straight to me, said hello, started talking to me and I was very surprised when she grabbed hold of my hands and gave me a kiss on the lips

It s not just sexual attraction that appears to be boosted by wearing pheromones. Users of pheromone products report that people generally pay more attention to them, listen more when they speak, and are friendlier in social situations.

Pheromones seem to affect people s general impressions and assessments. In one clinical study participants wearing surgical masks were shown photographs of buildings, trees, animals, women and men. Their task was to assess each according to impressions of friendly/unfriendly, aggressive/passive, attractive/unattractive and so on.
The purpose of the test, they were told, was to examine how stress related to wearing a surgical mask affected decision-making. Participants were tested twice, with a two-week interval between sessions.

For one of the tests small quantities of pheromones were sprayed on the mask, without the participants knowledge. With the added pheromone there was no noticeable difference in the study group s impressions of trees and buildings. Animals were considered slightly more aggressive.
Most stunning however was the difference in assessments of people, both women and men were considered to be more friendly, sensitive, intelligent, attractive, confident and good.

It s no wonder then that people are trying pheromone products not simply for sexual attraction, but to give themselves a competitive edge.
Salespersons are wearing them to boost their sales, job applicants are using them to create a favourable impression and social butterflies are spraying them on to increase their party invites.

As you can well imagine a whole crop of pheromone products has hit the market with differing formulas for both men and women.
Most are made of laboratory synthesized versions of male and female hormones, and as is the case with most anything you get what you pay for.
It appears that the more pheromones contained in the product the more money you ll pay. Some of the top selling brands are more than $100 for a sixth of an ounce, but the concentration of pheromones is such that that sixth of an ounce will last you a long time.

There are scented and unscented versions. Unscented can be added to your regular cologne or aftershave. You may want to experiment with applying pheromones to your clothes as well as to your skin. Both methods have different effects.

Due to body heat pheromones sprayed on skin evaporate quickly putting them into action right away, the instant attractor . The downside is that the active ingredients are used up just as fast. Sweat and surface bacteria also tend to break down and wash away pheromones on the skin.

Spraying unscented products on clothing gives a slower acting but much longer lasting effect. It may in fact last longer than you want, requiring dry cleaning or several launderings to remove, and some delicate fabrics may not take kindly to a spray-on product at all.
Some folks go for the double whammy with a combo of scented pheromone on the skin and unscented on the clothes.

By now, you may be wondering how you can get your hands on some of this liquid sexual magnet. We have links to many of these products on our Pheromones web page: http://www.tantra-sex.com/ep6.html#lure

It is not likely you will find any of these products in retail stores, not yet. You will have to order them on the Internet and have them delivered by mail. At our web site, you will also find additional scientific studies about pheromones in case you need more convincing that they work.

By the way, both Al and Pala have used pheromones and they work for us. Al added the unscented variety to one of his musk colognes. Right after that Pala not only started hugging and kissing him more frequently, but she started telling everyone how much she loved that cologne she had never mentioned it before!

Here s a look at a few of the pheromone products available:

Androstenone Pheromone Concentrate, for men an androstenone only oil-based formula. Scented.

Athena 10X for men and Athena 10:13 for women by none other than Dr. Cutler herself. The formula is a closely guarded secret

DateMate 2000 for men with androstenone and androstenol. DateMate FM for women with androstenone, androstenol and copulins. Unscented 15 ml. spray.

Primal Instinct for men only, contains 5 mg of androstenone per 10 ml bottle. This baby will last you a long time! Scented.

Realm, men s and women s formulas. Scented. Contains .05% androstenone by volume.

Xcite wipes, foil wrapped moist towlettes impregnanted with pheromones, easy to carry and quick to spread on the body. Scented.

Everyday new pheromone products are being touted on the market. How do you know you re going to get the real thing and not just an ineffective cologne with a lot of hype and no results ? Well, when buying a pheromone product you should ask yourself these questions:

1. Is there a money back guarantee? Most of the reputable brands offer this.

2. Does the product information clearly indicate that pheromones are present, what type they are and in what quantity? There are different mixtures, but generally look for androstenone, androstenol, and for women - copulins

3. Do the results promised sound absolutely too good to be true? They probably are.

There is one similarity with regular perfume, it seems that various pheromone formulas can react differently with each individual. So you may want to experiment with a few types. You can find out more about pheromone products brands, what they do and how to get them - at this website: http://www.tantra-sex.com/pheromones.html

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host Tantra Sacred Loving weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations around the planet.

For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their website http://www.tantra-sex.com/ or send email: 4freedoms@tantraloving.com Their book, Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, is published by New Page Books, 2003. http://www.tantra-sex.com/soulsex.html

Five Ideas to Create a Romantic Honeymoon

2007-09-05T00:13:00.000+07:00

Candles, rose petals, satin, succulent foods, perfume you re probably already familiar with all of these time-honored ingredients for creating a romantic mood on your honeymoon. But candles, rose petals, and other sensual ingredients only go so far.

The real key to creating a romantic honeymoon is to spend time celebrating your relationship and your new life together as a married couple. After all, romance is more about the heart than the body.

That doesn't mean you should put the candles away, but start setting the mood early by reveling in your relationship. Here are five ideas to get you started.

1. Explore uncharted territory
Intimacy is a key ingredient for creating a romantic mood. In its most basic sense, intimacy is about revealing our interior selves to another person the part of ourselves that we normally hide from others. When we do this, we honor the other person as someone we cherish and trust. Since it s often difficult to start sharing in this way, a game or book of questions can help.

The classic game of relationship questions is the Ungame, while the classic questions book is (appropriately enough) The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock. Each of these products contains hundreds of questions on topics ranging from ethics ( What would you do if . . . ? ) to feelings and ideas.
These are just two of many similar products that you can use in almost any setting even in the car or airplane on the way to your honeymoon destination.

2. Combine Your Photo Albums
Buy your first photo album together, if you don't get one at your wedding. Bring out your photo albums and choose the best photos of each other from your dating days to put in your new album it's a great way to relive old memories.

3. Write a Dream Letter
Write letters to each other about your dreams for your marriage. What do you hope your marriage will look like in ten, twenty, or thirty years? Exchange the letters on the first day of your marriage, and then save them to read on your wedding anniversary.

4. Leave Memory Notes Everywhere
Nothing creates a romantic mood better than remembering your best moments together as a couple. Purchase some small notepaper or post-it notes and spend some time digging up your favorite memories of your spouse. How did you meet? How did your first kiss come about?

What is the goofiest thing he or she ever did? When was your spouse there for you when you needed him or her the most? Then spend some time thinking of the memories you d most like to share with your spouse over the course of your marriage. Write these all down on the note paper, and hide them all over the place at your honeymoon destination (on the pillow, in the luggage, in the rental car, etc.).

5. Share the Love
The funny thing about love is you get more by giving it away.
That's as true for newlyweds as for anyone else, so find ways to share your love with others. Start by committing random acts of kindness both toward each other and complete strangers. Visit the Random Acts of Kindness Foundation web page for inspiration (http://www.actsofkindness.org/). One of our favorite stories there is about a young woman who was caught in the rain when a complete stranger gave her his own umbrella. When she asked how she would return it to him, he just smiled and walked away. Creating great memories like that adds a magical twist to your honeymoon.

Understand your partner's sexuality

2007-09-04T03:36:00.000+07:00

Sexual expression plays a huge role in relationships. It is way for people to show their lovers what they feel about them through passionate and intimate ways. As wonderful as sexuality can be, it is often misunderstood…
Sexual expression plays a huge role in relationships. It is way for people to show their lovers what they feel about them through passionate and intimate ways.

As wonderful as sexuality can be, it is often misunderstood, which is why the average couple faces sexual conflicts and challenges at some point during their relationship.

This is no way is a generalization of men and women, but the truth is, men and women handle their sexuality differently- on an average. If couples spend some time to truly learn and understand their partner s sexuality, they can build a happier and healthier sex life together, instead of facing the conflicts that stall their relationship from blossoming further.

Okay, so you now know that according for your sex life to improve, you need to understand your partner s sexuality but where do you start?
Good question, but there is no particular area to start.

You can start at any angle you wish, as long as you are learning something about your partner s sexual behavior. Of course, the most advisable suggestion would be communication, for every counseling psychologist believes that all couple conflicts exist because of poor communication that needs to be improved. This may be true, but it is a very general suggestion- too general for you to understand where to start.

You see, this is because you do not know what communication to improve. Many couples may have wonderful communication between each other and get along great, except for when it comes to making love.

How can this be if you communicate so well? The answer is very simple, yet most people would not think of it. In fact, the average person sees communication as a general skill that works for all areas of life, which is why most couple gets confused when their sex life starts to lack. The answer is: You need to improve your Sexual Communication.

Fine, that sounds simple enough. So all you have to do is talk about your sex life with your lover to clear any confusion?
Well, yes- talking about what is going on in your bedroom certainly helps you both understand what is going on in each others minds, but that is not the entire solution. Besides talking about it, you have got to do some research and work on your own. This means you need to make an effort to study your partner s sexuality by learning what triggers good and bad sexual responses. This is where it can get challenging because men and women view sex differently.

Though men have times they are not in the mood due to other things going on in their life, they usually can tune out everything when it comes to having a lovemaking session with their partner. In fact, for many men, sex is great way to help them feel better and relax- like a stress reducer.

For women however, sex is a more fragile subject and involves a lot of emotion. If a woman is having a bad day or has a million things going on in her mind, it distracts her from getting involved in good sexual activity.

Men take this offensively, thinking that the reason their woman does not want to have sex or is not that into it, is because she is no longer as turned on by him, or even being selfish- when this is most of the time not true.

Women need to be approached in certain ways that will make them feel relaxed, safe and ready to have sex. Men too have their own preferences of ways to be approached.

There are many methods you can use to better understand your partner’s sexuality and improve your sex life.
Begin by trying something different that you do not usually do, but also try combining that with a behavior you use often, so that your partner can still feel familiar and comfortable.

Good ideas that have succeeded are giving your partner a full body massage to help them relax and open up, setting up a sexy and romantic scene in the bedroom (example: candlelight, sexy music, sexy food like chocolate strawberries, body oils and butters, champagne, etc.), having an indoor picnic at home, taking a bath and scrubbing your lovers body, taking your lover out on a date and then staying in a nice hotel for the night and so on.

One of the main reasons sex conflicts occur eventually during a relationship, is due to the fact that the sex and romance fell into routine or a comfort zone.
To keep a sexual relationship exciting, you must take different routes and try new things and keep it creative.

Knowing what works best when it comes to awakening your lover s sexual cravings, will take time and effort, not to mention a good deal of exploration. Not that this would actually feel like work, for exploring new areas and new routines tend to always spice up a relationship and draw the two of you together.

You and your partner will not only be involved in more lovemaking sessions together, but will also discover new things about each other and your relationship, which will open new doors to better communication, new ideas, as well as learning more do s and don ts for your relationship.

Understanding your partner’s sexuality is not as hard as you may think. All it requires is the will and patience to observe and pay attention to what makes him or her tick and respond to you in the way you find most appealing.

While you are learning and using new ideas to enhance your sexual side of your relationship, you and your partner will automatically strengthen your bond, love, respect and understanding towards one another, which is what being in a relationship is all about.

Remember, when trying to improve a sexual relationship, you must look at things from two points of views: yours and your partners. As long as you make the best effort to this, plus good communication on both your parts, your relationship will be maintained in the most clear and satisfying form.

Different of Sexual and Romance

2007-09-03T01:59:00.000+07:00

And believe that finally they may have the answer.
There are two distinct differences in the areas of the brain associated with sexual arousal and emotional responses typical of being romantically involved, and using brain scans.

Scientists were able to decipher the distinctions people make-in their brains-when presented with sexual stimuli and then pictures of their wives and/or girlfriends. (By the way, the studies were done on females as well, we will use the term him for the sake of simplicity.)

Subjects who had very recently entered into new love relationships were hooked up to electro scanners and given a series of questions to answer pertaining to their new loves.
Their levels of dopamine soared when answering the questions, and appeared mostly to stimulate the right side of the brain, usually associated with rewards that are not typically in the instant gratification section.

This was thought to be because romance and love is not part of instant gratification, as is thought to be sexual encounters, porn, and impulse control associated with the left side of the brain. When the same subjects were shown sexually explicit material or answered explicit questions, the scans on the left side of the brain reacted.
More importantly, the areas of the brain which are thought to act as the relationship matures changed strongly when these same questions were answered by couples who had been involved for several years, leading scientists to believe that as we mature in our relationships, so does our brain activity in response to that relationship.

This could also explain why couples who are very much in love also experience a sense of the spark going out of their relationship after a few years. It's not that they aren't attracted to each other any longer; it's that their brain waves have matured. This could give much hope to couples thinking about separating because they don't know what happened to the romance and sex in their relationship.

This breakthrough could save you thousands on couples counseling, and give the hope that as the two of you move through this area of your relationship-and you will move through it, studies also show that this is a growth area for couples, not the end of the partnership- you will come out on the other side even more attracted to each other than before.

During the fifties and the beginning of the sixties, these types of studies where not even thought of, couples stayed together even when it seemed impossible.
With the explosion of divorce becoming popular in the seventies and more couples separating in order to find them, the need for these types of brain wave studies became very necessary, and a good thing, too.

If you and your partner are in a rut, it's not the right move to separate. Stay together and give it some time, there are other things you can do to spice up your relationship and still stay together. Love is still by far the strongest of all of the emotions

Welcome

2007-08-30T14:42:00.000+07:00

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